your expectations could be normal but completely unhealthy and self-defeating. There are many ways to get over him that i have already discussed but they require your hard work and dedication. Its like for acheiving any goal in life we have to take an action and put continuous effort over a long period of time. The problem is u dont seem to follow the path to happiness u just want to get results by doing nothing. Its your choice to choose an easy way to a stressful life.