I am sorry that you are in a delicate situation. Please do not get married to an abusive man, he is abusing you before the marriage and calling you names. I understand families are involved and how Indian parents go crazy, about the society and culture.. but you may have to consider what will give you peace of mind in the long run either happiness of your families, future husband and society or your welfare and happiness. Try to convince your parents and maybe take a stand. Good luck.