RE: Emotions in children



Some of the ways a child shows anger are:

Not following the rules.
Losing temper often.
Having trouble at school
Threatening or hurting others.
Stealing and lying.
Running away from home.
Acting in self-destructive ways.
Yelling, crying or complaining often.

A few myths about the relation of anger and children are:

MYTH: Children who are angry are “bad” children who won’t listen to reason.
FACT: Children who are severely angry are not “bad”. They are usually dealing with other problems or traumas through anger and might not be capable of listening to reason.

MYTH: Anger in children is always caused by either strict parenting or lack of discipline.
FACT: While strict parenting or lack of discipline can cause anger in a child, there could be many other reasons such as: depression, trauma, psychiatric disorders, medical illness, personality style, behavior disorders and stress (e.g., divorce or death in the family).

MYTH: Severe and long-term anger is just a phase children go through. They will eventually grow out of it.
FACT: Anger during childhood does not go away by itself. In fact it could lead to more severe problems during adolescence and adulthood.

MYTH: Physical punishment and/or bribery are the only ways to deal with an angry child.
FACT: Physical punishment and/or bribery to keep an angry child quiet are not effective ways to handle anger. Physical punishment can increase a child’s anger, while bribery can reinforce the angry behaviors.