Sorry for all the feeling you are facing. I am not sure but I think most of the married people are facing the problem in their life. So don’t take it too close to your heart. Most of the issues start with misunderstanding and due to lack of talk the gap increases.
I think you and your wife should go for holiday. Away from your family. There you can spend time together and talk with each other. You should also convince her that you love her very much and try to understand her views also.
Explain her that divorce is not a solution of any problem. This is problematic for you as well as for her also. In both cases you both will not be happy. Convince her that she is important for you. Try to explain your feelings for your parent to her.
Be positive. You are a brave man. Don’t be depress. Every problem has a solution so try this and let us know your plan of action .
Thanks for your encouraging comments. You know I and we (Our family) have tried our level best to explain her the drawbacks getting separated from each other, but at last our complete efforts turn in vain when she used to stand where she was and she used to take every small matters to extreme and reacts extremely. Her this kind of madness and stubborn attitudes are supported fully by her mother who always thinks whatever her daughter complains about us, is true and we should always cope up with her and explain her everytime. But she is beyond explaining everytime and we all love her very much but in face she does not. If she does, she would never reacts on small small issues in our daily life. What I think, she does not love anyone apart from herself. Please explain how to overcome and change her and take her away from her mother mentally who always supports her on everything , does not matter whether it is right or wrong.