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    rahul
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    Hello i am from India,our marriage was arranged by our parents.Its almost 3.5 years since married, no kids yet. After a few months of marriage i get to know that my wife had a affair for almost 3 years before marriage. I was okay when she told me about this. and i said not to engage anymore in that affair, she said okay. After a while i spied on my wife mail accounts and found that she is still in that relation and chats were still on. I asked her to stop this and we had aggressive argument . I tried to neglect all that and matter closed for some time.
    She started working and her work involves roaming within India yearly once.

    Now after almost 2 years i spied her again, and got to know that she is now sharing her nude pics and nude videos with him over chat application when she is roaming, Don’t know whether she is having physical relation as well.
    He is also a married since 3 years.

    Please suggest me friends, I am not able to think what to do.
    Please help.

    regards
    Rahul

    • This topic was modified 1 year, 9 months ago by  rahul. Reason: added details
    #18991

    Swarup
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    Then there is no reason of living with her rahul. Why u can make ur life without her so just do that. Don’t loose ur value and image by living with such a cheap person..

    #18995

    rahul
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    Thankyou Swarup.
    But is there anyway i can teach a lifetime lesson to this person .

    #18996

    Swarup
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    Do u want to change her? Or still wanted to live with her?

    #18999

    rahul
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    I dont know swarup,When i think of separating of, with all the memories of good time we spent, i m getting confused what to do, i dont know , iam not able to decide .

    #19000

    Swarup
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    Good memories will remain but u will loose ur future if u still stay with her. Can u get self respect with this? If u are 100% sure that ur wife is cheating u then it is waste of staying with her as her husband.

    #19026

    Anonymous
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    Then there is no reason of living with her rahul. Why u can make ur life without her so just do that. Don’t loose ur value and image by living with such a cheap person..

    I dont think it can be so simple without knowing more about the relationship. You cannot just walk out of a marriage. And Swarup, its definitely not for any of us to berate anyone.

    Getting back to rahul’s point, I cannot fathom what would you be feeling in your situation, but – one thing I know for sure, angry exchanges never solved anything. I am sure it would be near impossible to talk about this. But you need to talk to her – as cool-ly as much as possible. Try to find a reason about her behaviour. Yes, it is going to be really difficult to control your anger.

    Please, for your own sake, DO NOT tell her that you ‘spied’ on her. That’s going to divert the topic. The talk would go around on things like – ‘so you spy on me??? you don’t trust me???’ and you are going to say ‘of course and all this proves..’ But all this would lead nowhere except another round of heated argument.

    It sure is a tricky situation that needs to be handled really carefully if you want to save your relationship.

    #19030

    Swarup
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    For ur kind i just told him if he is fully sure then only get separate from her. so as i think without proper knowing nobody will tell all this things to others. And definitely i will tell again if all these are true then its really has no meaning having that kind of a person in life. Surely it is not any spy there should be no privacy between husband and wife. Nobody will going to control anger with such cheap things when their life partner will going to do.

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