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  • #14477
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    Khushi
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    Hi,
    I am 26 yr old female, got married last year in July. My husband demands a lot. Like I was not used to do many house hold chores or manage things, he started blaming me. From the very first week after marriage, he started complaining that he is not liking anything in me. He needs this, his expectations rise everyday. I am a shy person and speaks less and he loves to listen more. So, he started complaining that I don’t do any interesting things for him. Its not like he doesn’t care for me. He cares a lot, but sometimes he starts abusing me, my family. Its always in his mind that I am a bad omen for him. He says that I am punishment to him. I listen to him. I do all the household chores, go to office then do all the stuff. Then after that he says you are not putting efforts in our relationship. What should I do? I am really puzzled as acc. to me I do whatever I need to do like doing all stuff, talking, giving him importance, chatting, loving messages to him. WHat else should I do to make him realize that I am putting efforts. I want to make this marriage work.

    #15717

    Swarup
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    hi Kushi it is true that your husband loves u so much their is no doubt in that. U said that you are very shy person, it is also true that most husbands wants their wife to be shy instead of rough and tough. I think your husband have any external problems outside the house which he may not wanted to tell you. Is your husband is short temperor ? Or any problem with his parents ?

    #15720
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    Khushi
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    yes. he is short tempered and moody. within just few seconds, his mood fluctuates. It is not like that he doesn’t share any external problems. He tells me everything about his office and friends. and yeah, he is not very close to his parents.

    #15721

    Swarup
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    That means he feels lonely in house. He may have suffered from any problem before marriage that he didn’t told u till now. Some matters will be there which they don’t want to share with others. Is he had any lover before marriage ? And is he told u that he is fully happy to marry u before marriage ?

    #15722
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    Khushi
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    Yes, absolutely, he feels lonely at home. He has a lover before marriage. He told me before marriage also that he is not happy. I dont see him happy anytime. What should I do to make him happy. I listen to him, dont demand anything from him, tries to behave like he wants. He complains that I dont do interesting things, I dont have passion in my life.. I dont know what to do.

    #15723

    Swarup
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    It’s good sister your husband has told you everything. Then you can take him away for some time far from house. Where he can forget other things. When we are in the same place where problem is born then its shadow will always be there because of that make him away from house for few days or go outside with him everyday. Don’t let him alone always be with him, try to talk more with him share your thoughts and listen to him calmly. And more importantly have faith in yourself and in God, everything will going to be Good for and we will see you happier soon..
    When you are will be happy all of us will be happy, if u have any question you can ask us anytime, you are always welcome….

    #15724
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    Khushi
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    Thanks a lot for reply. It means a lot to me.

    #15746
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    harsha l
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    DrI’m 25 year old girl,plz sm 1 help me I’m going through very serious problem . when I was in college I liked one of my senior. he was very very smart handsome ..I never talked to him during my college but I started loving him very much,my college was also completed after his passing in 2 yrs,after his college was completed,mein college mein hamesha unhe yaad karti thi khae din sirf unki ek jhalak mil jae ro ro k prathna karti thi bhagwan se .aise karte 4 saal bit gae woh mujhe kbhi mile nai na Unka pata wagar na contact no kuch nai tha mere pass. Maine ek din unhe Fb p dekhe Maine unhe few bheji hum ache dost bane Maine unhe sab such bataya ki mein aae bahot pyar karti hun etc etc …par caste alag k karan hamari shadi nai ho sakti ye baat ki humne,mujhe lagne laga tha ki woh mujhe bhi pasand karne lage…mein unhe kbhi mili nai thi ,Fb p hi photo dekhe unhone meri.mein unke pyar mein pagal ho chuki thi Unka phone ek din bhi na aye toh mujhse raha nai jata tha ,Mann hi Mann bahot chahne lagi thi unhe Hadd se jyada. bhagwan k jaise par taklif hamesha hoti thi mujhe ki humari shadi nai ho paegi kyunki caste alag hai,humara rishta acha chal ra tha ,thoda pyar ho chuka tha. hunm mile nai the kbhi ab tak ..ek saal ho chuka tha hamari reltn ko ..unki gf nai thi koi ..unhone mujhse ek din bola apne t shirt nikal k pic bhejo…mein bahot shy ladki hun ..mete hosh ud gae..Maine unhe bahot koshis ki samjhane ki pyar aisa nai hota Mann se karo plz samjho kapde nikal k pic nai de sakti..mein unhe khona nai chahti thi kisi bhi halat mein ,kyunki bahot mannato k baad woh mujhe mile the …….3 mnth tak talne k baad ek din unhone mujhe bola plz apne boobs ki pics do ..mein unhe har tarike se samjha chuki thi ki plz Mann ka pyar rako par woh nai mane …woh mujhe unfrnd karke Chod k na chale jae islie Maine unhe apni ek pic di inner pehen k….aur pyar badte raha…par humari mulaqat nai hui thi kbhi Amne samne, iske Thodye din baad unhone ek din mujhe bola ki mein shadi karunga tumse ,hum dono do do shadi karenge,ek ghar walo k samne ek Chup k

    #15747

    Swarup
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    Hi harsha muje lagtahe unke behaviour kuch accha nahi he , isliye me kehtahu unhe chodne me hi aapko balayi he to aap unke bina apne life accha rah sakti ho so please don’t spoil your life with this kind of person…

    #15748
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    harsha l
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    thanks swaraup raj for reply but that was half story of mine posted last night,unhone mujhse Kaha ki hum do shadi karenge ek ghar walo k samne kisi aur se n ek Chup k,mein unhe kbhi khona nai chahti thi islie Maine unko haa bol diya is baat k lie,n is baat k 4 mnth baad woh mujhse Milne aaye Maine unhe bola 1:5 years ho re Hamare reltn ko n mein unki family n unke bare mein sab Jaan chuki thi bahot ache se abt his job salary all. woh ready hue n June 2013 ko mujhse Milne aye first tym mein bahot excited khus thi unse first meet ko lekar ki mera pyar jiske liye Itne 3 saal intejar kiya woh finally mujh se Milne a ra ,woh bahot handsome hai ( bilkul actor Neil nitin k jaise dikate hai same bahot jyada smart) n mein wheatish complexion ki nice face cut wali girl hun n achi hi dikti hun,par mujhe hamesha inferiority complexion rehta ya yun kaho ki low self confidence ,mujhe Dar lag ra tha ki kahi woh mujhe pasand nai kare toh ,par meri taraf se k was preparing myself to look very good ,n us dauran unke ane se pehle Phn p hsmari baate chalti thi toh woh bolte rehte the mujhe ki jb aaunga tb boobs chune dogi na ek baar.Maine hmmm bola tha unhe coz I wanted ki woh ek baar toh mujhse mile mein tadapti rahi hun unke lie Itne saal


    mein Jis din se unhe Dekhi unhe sirf apna pati Mann baithi thi,ujhe sirf Unka pyar chaiye tha,mein Hadd se jyada unse pyar kar chuki thi n hum apne ghar walo ko nai bats sakte the coz bahot jyada strict the Hamare ghar wale ,is beech unki kisi dusri ladki ka rishta aya unhone mujhe us ladki ki pics dikai woh gori sundar thi,mujhe us din bahot Rona aya ki mein unhe kho dungi ab ,ab jee nai paungi unke bina,woh mujhse sab share karte the unki baat pakki hui us ladki se,hamara rishta phir bhi raha hum ache se baate wagar sab karte the Unka rishta pakka hone k baad bhi ,woh mujhe batate the ki us ladki se baat karta raat mein n subah ,3 mnth baad June 2013 mein woh Milne aye mujhse ,mein mili unse hum film dekne gae mall p ghume,mein kya feel karri thi Bata nai sakti mera dream mere sath samne khada tha. mein nervous happy n darri hui sab thi ,par khus bahot,US din mere baju mein woh baithe the,lyf mein pehli baar kisi ladke ke Itne karib baithe thi mein unhone mere gale p hath rakha pyar se .mein unhe apna pati Mann chuki thi Itne salo se ki mein unhi ki hun,mein kaap rahi thi us din such bolo toh,phir unhone mere boobs chue unhe daba re the 3-4 min mein kaap rahi thi bahot ,phir sham hui mujhe apne ghar Jana tha n unhe hotel ,par mera Mann toh unhe ek min bhi dur Jane ko nai kar ra tha ,Mann Kara tha sirf unhe dekti rahu sath rahu ,Unka pyar palu,mein itna jyada pyar karti thi unse kiski koi Hadd nai pagli ki tarah marne k baad bhi meri atma Unka wait karegi ye mujhe pata tha n unhe bhi ki mein chahti hun bahot unhe,next day bhi hum mile n dopahar ko unko Jana tha mein bahot rorai thi station mein jb woh jare the ki ap kb miloge mujhse ,coz next tym ab hum shadi karenge yr decide kie the hum mujhe unse 2_3 mnth mein ek do baar milna ho paega ye unhone batate tha kyunkibus dusri ladki se bhi unki shadi hone wali thi ,such bolu mein tarasti rahi thi Itne saal unke pyar k lie har din Maine bhagwan se pratna kark unhe manga tha ki plz bhagwan mujhe unse Mila do unko mujhse pyar Kara do ,koi din nai tha jo unki yaad k bina nai gujra tha kbhi,,unhone mujhe samjhaya mat ro aunga Milne .phir woh chale gae hamari Phn p baat continue hote rahi mein unse puchti thi ki kb aoge ap,coz unki new job lagi thi toh chutti milna Muskil tha,n unki us ladki se shadi bhi hone wali thi,mein chahti thi ki hum shadi pehle kare us ladki ki sath shadi se pehle ,par woh talne lagre the mujhe ki hum rishta jyada nai badate ..ye sun k hosh ud gae the mere ki kya mein unhe pasand nai aai kya mein unhe sundar nai lagi jo woh mujhse mil k Jane k baad mans Kare hai ab shadi k lie,Maine 2 baar apne hath kata lie the unhe pic dikai apne hath Katne ki ,, taki woh samjhe ki mein bahot jyada pyar karti hun unhe …mere sath shadi ka Wada kark dhoka na de mujhe ,, mein jee nai paungi,,mujhe sirf Unka pyar chaiye tha isilie Maine unki Chup k shadi wali baat n do do shadi wali baat p rahi hui thi


    n woh meri hath Katne wali baat p Dar gae thoda ,unhone mujhe bola aisa kuch bhi nai karna mein toh hamesha tumhare sath hun tumse pyar karta hi hun yaar,Maine unhe samjhane ki puri koshis ki apko koi problems nai hogi yaar mein apko share kardungi par apka pyar nai us ladki k sath,mein apke lie sab kuch kar sakti hun,phir humne decide kiya,October mein woh aaye Milne n humne shadi ki,mein ghar p jhut bolk 2 din k lie unke sath rehne gai ,hotel book kiya hum mandir gae puja ki ,mang bhari unhone meri ,mein bahot khus thi aisa lagra tha jo manga woh sab kuch mil gaya mujhe meri lyf complete hui ,sath bas Dar bhi tha ki us dusri ladki k karan mujhe kbhi pyar sath kam na karde woh ,hum phir hotel aye unhone mujhe pyar kiya bahot ,par hum abhi sex nai karenge ye decide kie the,baki sab kuch unhone kiya,woh itna pyara ehsas Unka mujhe pyar karna ye mein apni lyf mein kbhi nai bhul sakti us din Itni khus thi mein u ke sath ko lekar ,November 2013;2 din hum sath Rae phir wai kiska Dar tha unke wapas Jane ka tym a gaya us din mere ansu nai ruk Rae the,ye sath ye khusi jaise mujhse koi chin k le jaega ,,,, mein ro ri thi bahot unse gale lag k ,woh mujhe samjhae ki hamesha pyar karunga tumhe ,khus rakhunga tumhe,Maine bhi unhe bola plz jaldi Ana mujhse Milne,par andar se Itni jyada tut rai thi mein bahot rorai thi ,next month woh us dusri ladki k sath shadi karne Jane wale bhi the,toh mujhse kb milege ab iska fix nai tha kuch


    unki us ladki k sath shadi bhi hogai ,mein kaise woh din gujari mujhe pata,ye Soch k ki us ladki ko bhi chuenge mein tadapti thi ,mujhse bardash nai ho para tha,main par sab sehen ki kyunkineoh mujhse pyar karte ,par Hamare milna sath bahot kam ho para kbhi unki job,toh kbhi mere ghar walo k karan, ek saal ho chuka hum sirf 8 din mile last year mein unhe dhamki deke jabardasti karke unhe Milne bulai ki plz ghar p kuch bhi jhut blo par plz mujhse Milne aao,mujhe bahot taklif hoti hai ki Aap us dusri ladki k sath hote hamesha mujhe bhi tym do,plz ,2-3 mnth mein 1 day woh ate subah 9 se5 bje tak,phir hum dono ko nikslna padta

    #15749

    Swarup
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    Can u please check your email that you given for us..


    Kya apke pas email id he?

    #15750
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    harsha l
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    mein unse bahot pyar karti hun yaar bahot jyada,Unka us ladki ko Chuna mere andar Aag laga deta hai islie Maine unhe uske sath sex karne jyada nai bola ,humne bahot baar sex kita jb bhi woh aae n enjoy bhi kiya,par har waqt unke jate tym next tym ane ka fix nai hota mein bahot roti hun roj ki woh mujhse dur na ho jaye bas,hamari ladai bhi hoti kai baar ki aisa kuch nai hota hai ,woh mujhe samjhate hai ki uske sath agar sex karlunga toh tumhare liye pyar kam nai ho jaega ,,,par mera Mann nai manta ,mein kya karu mujhe samaj nai ata ,US ladki k karan unhe problem na ho islie Maine apne Mann ko control kiya aur unhe bola thik ki aj raat ap uske sath sex karo lekin plz sex k baad ap mujhe sab details bataoge ki kaise kitna Der kiye sab chij,Ise mujhe thoda relax lagta ki meta pati mujhe Bata toh ra,par unhe pasand nai ata is baat p bhi ladai ho jati kbhi kbhi,par woh Dar gae is lie woh man bhi jare baat meri,par mera irada unhe Dara dhamke k rakne ka bilkul nai hai,mein bas chahti ki woh value kare mere pyar aur sacrifice ki n mujhe utna pyar de jitna mein deserve karti hun ,mere lie woh soche meta khyal rake tbhi mein us. ladki k sath sab kuch ki baat p normal ho paungi …par ab bahot complicated typ ho gaya pata nai woh kyu meri baat samaj pate ,mein mar jaun sab taklifo ko sehen se achha ye lagta mujhe woh bhi Itne pareshan hai mere karan unko Itni problems hoti mein kya kari samaj nai ata mein pagal ho chuki hun ab

    #15751

    Swarup
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    Dekiye behan ji ek baat batayi ye ki aapko unke sath rehkar saccha pyar mil rahahe?
    muje nahi lagta ki aapko usne sachhe dil se pyar nahi kar raha he, o sirf aapka innocence ka faida uta raha he. Aap unke upar ke pyar se anda ho chuke he. Aap zara unke bina ki zindagi dekiye , aapke jeevan me aur b zyada kam baki he. Aap is tarah ki zindagi jeekar aapke maa , baap aur aapke family ko kya de sakti ho batayiye, aapke bare me o sab kitna kayal raki honge. Tho ek nahi do baar nahi das baar sochiye ki agar use aapse utnahi pyar ta jitne aapke he to o aapse kab hi sabki samne nahi dare hue shadi kar sakta tha . Esliye me kehtahu jo hogaya so hogaya o sab bul jayiye aapki abibi bahut age he job aap use sundar bana sakti he aapne aap per barosa rakiye sab kuch acha hoga.. Agar apke kuch b Question he to aap kabibi puch sakte he

    #15752
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    harsha l
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    r mein apko apni email is send kari hun ,n plz par mein taklif k sath kaise jiyu yaar mujhe samaj nai ata ,Maine apna dab kuch uske lie sacrifice kar chuki hun n badle mein woh agar mete pyar ki value nai karte mujhe galat samajhte …toh mujhe kbhi ya toh bahot gussa ata hai ki unhe barbad kardu unhe muh p badua deti mein ki mere jate hi barbad ho jaoge tum rite rahoge us dusri k sath,ya jb roti hun toh sochti ki Maine toh unhe hamesha pyar kiya mere karan Itni problem ho ri toh mein mar jati hun …par phir mar jaungi toh sala woh phas jaenge Mumy papa dur ho jaenge…unhe chodne ki himmat nai hai yaar kya karu samjha k thak jari ,mein aj kal ek dum pagal jaise ho gai hun kbhi shant rehti toh kbhi galiya deti bhadak jati ,mentally I’ll ho gai hun

    #15753

    Swarup
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    Aapke email check kariye please

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