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    Amreen K Shaikh
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    Like the Adults, Children undergo through various emotions. But unlike adults, children often don’t know how to express themselves.
    The most common emotion that children can’t express is ANGER.
    Adults, can vent out their anger in different ways, because they know what they are going through. They can talk to people about it or vent their anger on the person/situation that caused that anger.
    But children often can’t do that.
    This post is to discuss how children express their anger. The signs, symptoms and how to deal with them

    I will mention one of the sign – Children throw tantrums unnecessarily OR hurt other children (biting them, hitting them etc.)

    What are the other ways ? And how can we deal with them ?

    #15046

    Prachi
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    An excellent topic of discussion Amreen! Children also express their anger and frustration through their art. If a child is constantly drawing dark,depressive figures and drawings, using bleak colors like blacks and grays or violent reds it may signify pent up anger or frustration. Even in structured drawing the aggression theme may become visible. For example, when asked to draw his classroom he may depict a child beating up another one in a corner, or a child alone and aloof from the entire classroom etc.

    #15047

    CpyderW
    Keymaster

    They either self-destruct, re-construct or end up destructive….:-)


    that’s cause they really have bad art teachers where art itself is constructed in way to be followed and not discovered…like everyday reality

    #15048

    Amreen K Shaikh
    Participant

    Very true Prachi. Other than the above mentioned symptoms, bed wetting, throwing tantrums, expressing hate towards other children by saying “i don’t like him/her”, “he/she s not my best friends” for no reason at all.

    #15049

    CpyderW
    Keymaster

    sometimes the children argue with their parents relating to a particular topic in anger and dont listen anything from anyone expressing their thinking as justified…

    #15050

    CpyderW
    Keymaster

    Dear Prachi, In my art therapy experience with angry early adolescents they act out their anger according to the source of the pain. I don’t think we do a very good job of teaching open communication or ways to deal with anger. Our communities have little capacity for such big emotions, so we sweep them under the mat or give them a pill. So kids act out in class by being silly or with risky behaviour. They become bullies, or they join gangs, or they self-harm. Withdrawal in the form of excessive video playing, or reading is another sign of displaced anger.
    My art therapist experience is that the anger shows up in art in as diverse ways as there are clients. Some show blood and aggression, others work on making their pieces as pretty as can be. But when it comes to the truly from-the-heart art, they depict the source of their anger. Those depictions are usually in metaphor, so they require the experience of an art therapist who may choose to open a discussion around the art or allow the child the satisfaction of anonymity within the art.Often it is enough for them to have been witnessed and understood at a deeper level than just talking fosters.

    #15051

    Prachi
    Participant

    Thank you Debbie! That was a very informative response. We are really learning some new things here. Keep the discussion going people!

    #15052

    Prachi
    Participant
    Guest wrote:
    They either self-destruct, re-construct or end up destructive….:-)


    that’s cause they really have bad art teachers where art itself is constructed in way to be followed and not discovered…like everyday reality

    Dear Guest, could you elaborate on your point about ‘bad art teachers’? We’d really like to hear more on how you think that affects children’s expressions.

    #15054

    Namrata
    Participant

    Some of the ways a child shows anger are:

    Not following the rules.
    Losing temper often.
    Having trouble at school
    Threatening or hurting others.
    Stealing and lying.
    Running away from home.
    Acting in self-destructive ways.
    Yelling, crying or complaining often.

    A few myths about the relation of anger and children are:

    MYTH: Children who are angry are “bad” children who won’t listen to reason.
    FACT: Children who are severely angry are not “bad”. They are usually dealing with other problems or traumas through anger and might not be capable of listening to reason.

    MYTH: Anger in children is always caused by either strict parenting or lack of discipline.
    FACT: While strict parenting or lack of discipline can cause anger in a child, there could be many other reasons such as: depression, trauma, psychiatric disorders, medical illness, personality style, behavior disorders and stress (e.g., divorce or death in the family).

    MYTH: Severe and long-term anger is just a phase children go through. They will eventually grow out of it.
    FACT: Anger during childhood does not go away by itself. In fact it could lead to more severe problems during adolescence and adulthood.

    MYTH: Physical punishment and/or bribery are the only ways to deal with an angry child.
    FACT: Physical punishment and/or bribery to keep an angry child quiet are not effective ways to handle anger. Physical punishment can increase a child’s anger, while bribery can reinforce the angry behaviors.

    #15070

    saladav
    Participant
    Amreen K Shaikh wrote:
    Like the Adults, Children undergo through various emotions. But unlike adults, children often don’t know how to express themselves.
    The most common emotion that children can’t express is ANGER.
    Adults, can vent out their anger in different ways, because they know what they are going through. They can talk to people about it or vent their anger on the person/situation that caused that anger.
    But children often can’t do that.
    This post is to discuss how children express their anger. The signs, symptoms and how to deal with them

    I will mention one of the sign – Children throw tantrums unnecessarily OR hurt other children (biting them, hitting them etc.)

    What are the other ways ? And how can we deal with them ?

    #15074

    saladav
    Participant

    3 Steps to avoid Anger


    1.Parents should spent more time to play and go outing with your kids .
    2.parents try to understand your adult kids.
    3.Parents should watch good movie with your kids

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