May 19, 2012 at 8:38 pm #13189NamrataParticipant
If you’re into personal growth, you will at some point outgrow some or all of your friends. The sooner you can accept it, the easier it’ll be.
Your friends may object and ask you why you’re abandoning them, but there’s not much you can do. They create their own reality, and if they choose to create the feeling of abandonment, it is up to them. It’s not a lot of fun, but they will get over it. It can get lonely while you’re transitioning from one group of friends to another. You’ll wish that you could go back to the way things were, wish the time sould have stopped the, sit in a corner and think of the olden times with tears trickling down your cheek….Everything seems so much easier when you selectively pick out memories from the past. You might even try to go back for a while, but it won’t feel quite right. The longer you try to resist your growth, the harder it’ll be to hang on. You will start feeling more and more disconnected from your current group of friends and drawn in another direction. It’s not that you’re suddenly better than your friends. Look at it more as if you’re at the train station, jumping on trains going to different destinations and both you and your friends sometimes cross parts or stayed together in the same service station, but now its time you go to your destination. As you keep growing you will literally move into another wavelength, which is why your connection to your friends is fading.
You can let everything unfold at the pace you desire. Fast or slow, it’s up to you. Let go of any emotions that are holding you back and accept the situation you are in. Let your feelings guide you when it comes to making decisions. If you don’t feel like an activity you used to do with your friends no longer excites you, don’t do it. If something else still seems cool, do it. It’s simple. Listen to yourself instead of your friends. It’s up to you to play out your own life.
Every person in your life is there for a reason. In the end you have to ask yourself what feels right for you.
You may feel obligated or bad about cutting your friends loose, but if you’re not 100% happy with where you are and who you are spending your time with, it’s time for change.
It takes courage, but sooner or later it has to be done. You can always opt for a comfortable life of complacency, but who in their right mind really wants that deep down?
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