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    k.jalaal
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    I AM K.JALAAL FROM PONDICHERRY, 53 YEARS OLD, HAVING TWO SONS & ONE DAUGHTER. ELDEST SON MARRIED OFF, HAVING A SON, WORKING IN AN IT COMPANY AT CHENNAI. DAUGHTER ALSO MARRIED OFF, HAVING A DAUGHTER. MY LAST SON WORKING IN AN IT COMPANY AT BANGALORE, FELL IN LOVE WITH A COLLEAGUE. AFTER ABOUT 1-1/2 YEARS OF RELATIONSHIP, SHE DID NOT WANT TO CONTINUE. IN SPITE OF SEVERAL ATTEMPTS TO PATCH UP, SHE REFUSED. MY SON IS NOT ABLE TO FORGET HER, TOTALLY DEPRESSED, AND KEEPS CRYING. HOW TO MAKE HIM NORMAL ?

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    Hello as a father u should realise him that you are all will be their to take of him. Don’t make him to feel alone otherwise he will addict to any bad habbit.

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    Prachi
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    Dear Mr Jalaal,

    I’m sorry to hear that your son’s relationship broke.It can be a painful process and cannot be expected to get over in just a few days or even months. As outsiders it may be easy for us to feel and say that of that girl didn’t care for him, he should forget her easily. But for the person who was in that relationship, its not easy. They have shared moments. He has invested his emotions with her. And the breakup is a trauma for him, a big hurt.Just like a wound takes some time to heal, similarly breakups can take from 6 months to 3 years to heal. All you should do right now is be there for him. Don’t judge, don’t advice. Try and engage him in activities like exercise, a hobby, something new which he didn’t do previously.But don’t say that you are doing this to distract him. Just say that you feel like spending time with him and it would be fun if you two could try this together.Give him space and time. He will come out of it. In the meantime just be watchful of any signs of suicidal ideas or excessive consumption of alcohol or cigarettes. As long as he does not go towrads these, he will recover from it in a few months.

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    zulfia
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    Dear Mr. Jalaal,

    Your son is already very lucky to have a father like you , willing to co operate with him in a tough time like this. After a break up family support is the most important thing , to make him feel loved , wanted and most important boost his self confidence. Please remember with a break up like this , also comes low confidence and a sense of rejection which becomes the root cause of depression. Without him knowing please give him as much family love , care and make him feel wanted and important , give him space if he wants to be on his own for a while , make family plans with your children and grand children , ask for his suggestions and advice for family matters , discuss your work problem , praise him for his valuable advice in matters like these.

    It takes time to get over a person , and only time will heal the scars . There will come a day when he will not even remember this time.

    All the best!

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