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    Devil s in me
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    Our was a love marriage which took about 2 years to materialise after disclosing it to our families..problem was mainly my dad but by 2 years he was content with everything…
    We got married in July 2013…its going to be 2 years now…
    We were apart most of the time…actually we have been together only for about 7 months…that too in patches of 2 months n 3 months at times…due to our professional issues…
    Now we are in different states and he is too busy to even come down home…and i landed up with a permanant govt job in our home state…
    I dont know if its my passing thought because i am unemployed for the past 1&1/2yrs and was preparing for my pg entrance during this gap..but havent been successful yet…but i feel the romance in our relationship has died out..i have begun to feel highly insecure of late…even when i am with him…its like we are fighting everyday!!…matters range from silly to serious but still we are fighting most of the time…
    He is so engrossed with work that he gets exhausted by the time he reaches home and all he wants is to watch a movie and go to sleep…i am overtly concerned about the huge amount of stress thats piling upon him and since we havent yet been successful in starting a family yet, i feel miserable about it(his stress and not conceiving..both!!)…
    I know he loves me a lot…cares for me like a father to his daughter…but still there is something amiss…
    I get frustrated when he goes for work and comes back after nearly 12-13 hrs!!
    His job profile is a highly responsible one i know…but that leaves no time for me…but he enjoys doing his work a lot…so i dont know what to say…
    Discipline in life is void in him…and for me i am someone who is quite disciplined…the condition of our house when i visit him once in a few months is nothing less than a dumpyard!! It just pisses me off like anything…i argue with him saying that if you can do your work well then why dont you bother to keep the house well…its because you give priority only to your job and so starts the quarreling…
    Can anybody help me please??
    I am new here…
    I was feeling soo lost after pulling off a big fight yesterday that i googled up for online help…
    Its sunday today and he has gone for work!!…its something he should have completed long back but since he was lazy to complete it;he is forced to do it today coz tomorrow there is some meeting and it has to be doñe before tonight…
    And the worst part is that i am leaving from here on wednesday back home coz i have to join my new job on saturday!! And today was the last sunday before i leave!!..
    I am feeling so lonely here..feeling left out..feel like screaming out and crying out loud..
    Somebody please help me…help me to help US!!

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    Pari
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    Dear Friend,
    I am not an expert in this matter but have experienced Ups and downs of long distance relationship and the love for work from partner.
    One thing which one of my close friend told me and which I have also started believing is that for some people their individual life, lifestyle, independence becomes a habit and they get addicted to it. It becomes their personal space rather comfort zone. Which is unfortunately not good for any husband -wife relationship.coming out of their comfort zone pisses them off badly . I am talking general.
    My suggestion is , if your relate to what i have written above, please increase the frequently of your visit. Do not make him habitual of staying alone. PLan short visit to avoid and feuds..this might help….
    Its just 2 years.. you might wait for increasing your your family….

    Pari

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