May 30, 2014 at 7:23 pm #13719
Hi…i would like to brief you from past… i am basically from a small city then was working in a metro city. i use to live with my friends. I had a unsuccessful relation there. I am very confused about the status of my relations…do i love or not…. …i recently got married and shifted to another metro city … i am very happy to have a person like my husband as a life partner. But my anger has increased immensely. Since childhood i have never been so aggressive…. :'( i am use to be very patient and use to cry but never shouted on anyone. But have become the opposite now. i cant take things posetively…get angry often…m not very happy with the job …. i always feel bad after shouting at my husband but at that point of time its irresistible. I have very small expectations ….but it seems that they are very big for him ….. i dont need any materialistic things but yes his time…if a person gives two hours also fully to me i am happy…but i have to take the time forcefully..he feels that i dont give him his space….
i dont want to ruin my married life… as an example… he is supposed to be home at 7 in the evening but if at 9 i come and see that he isnt there and get worried when he doesnt pick cal…according to him is not normal..he thinks that droping a message is like interfering…
i need solution for keeping my mind cool and handling the situations
i would be highly grateful if you can help… i hope i was clear becaused as i stated i am confused about things…. please helpJuly 3, 2014 at 1:56 pm #15462
As a third person your problem seems to be very simple. You have two problems. One is you become angry frequently and second you are feeling that your husband is not giving you much time.
Since you recently entered in married life you should understand that marriage is another name of adjustment. You husband has personal life which he wants to live freely. If you want his attention and want some personal time then told your feeling with him in polite manner. It is not necessary that he daily spend 2 hrs with you. Rather then in week-end you can enjoy time together.
Your anger is somewhat related to this. If you try to understand your husband; and allow him to spend his time without arguing you will see that in future he will also try to undestand your feeling.
So anger is not a solution. You should control it and talk him with smile. If you do not agree with him still discuss this with him peacefully. You have just started your life so please don’t think negative (ruining married life).
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