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    kamal006
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    I think they love me very much and care about me very much. But they do not respect my interest. It seems that they can give their life for me but if I want anything the can die to protect me from doing that. I am badly depressed.

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    Swarup
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    hay kamal I’m your friend, i have jealous on you for having such a parents, you are so lucky you know why many children don’t have parents and even don’t know who their parents are…
    So i just want to tell you that from how many years Your parents are taken care of you for yours from your birth to till now so please show some love on them and realise them that you are not still a baby in a proper manner. For more contact me

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    ruchi4hope
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    Dear Kamal

    There can be many reason why you have developed a feeling of hatred towards your parents. Its difficult to help you cope with this emotion and issue on the basis of the information you have provided.

    Sometimes we tend to jump to conclusions on the basis of what our eyes see and our heart differs to consider…

    Its clear and good, that you are aware about the love and care your parents have for you. What I have gathered from your post is that you have difference in opinion and feel controlled or over-protected by your parents. I am sure you might also agree that they might have their own reasons for their actions. It is natural to feel hurt, sad and low when things don’t work as per our needs, desires and thinking. But there are ways to cope with such emotions, and you can overcome and resolve your negative emotions.

    In-case you need further help, and decide to opt for counselling, you can write to me on [email protected] or visit this page http://www.hopenetwork.in/therapists/ruchi-trivedi/ to fix an appointment.

    Hope these few lines could bring some amount of relief to you
    Take care

    Regards
    Ruchi Trivedi

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    aspeedesai
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    The feeling of being constantly watched by parents is not particularly liked by children as they are growing up. The child’s need for this personal space seems to have significantly increased in our Indian society as it has evolved. Now traditionally the idea to move out of the house after becoming capable of making an earning, is still considered as a moral lack of responsibility of the child towards the parents in our society. This is largely untrue as most parents still continue to earn and sustain themselves.

    This is a very common problem today and your case is no different than millions of people worldwide. Moving out and staying on one’s own while working towards making sufficient earnings to sustain oneself does not necessarily mean that the children do not care for their parents. I’ve known several parents who have happily chosen to allow their children to stay on their own. Many parents and their children that have stayed away from home for their education or profession, seem to have naturally evolved to allow this mutual need for personal space.

    I am not sure if, what I have discussed here is relevant. It is unclear from your post in what way do your parents, “do not respect your interests”. Now coming to the subject line of this post, “I hate my parent’s !!! How can I overcome this?”. I cannot think of anyway of NOT hating someone who you hate. Your parents seem to love you a lot and for that, you can surely discuss and make them aware of the choices (that can be shared) you want to make. I remember taking help from my friends or relatives so that I could convince my parents wherever they’ve been disrespectful of my interests. Of course as and adult and even as a child I’ve had things I always have hidden from my parents, which I continue to do even now ;) Take it easy!

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