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    Nidhi
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    Hello,
    I,m 27 year old women, it has been 11 month to my marriage. but still i dont have sex with my husband….now this is creating problem in our marriage….problem is that i dont like his way of thinking and he also only like to have foreplay and he rarely says for sex….. but he has made me guilty in front of his parents and my parents……i dont like the way he approaches to me…….i cant leave him because my parents will not allow it and my brothers will not support me now i’mfeeling to do suicide but i dont want to be a coward…….please help because of the tension i started having migraine problem and loss of diet ………please advice me…..i want to express fully but here i’not able to…….but by talking i think i can express myself…..please help.urgent.

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    trueman
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    Nidhi wrote:
    Hello,
    I,m 27 year old women, it has been 11 month to my marriage. but still i dont have sex with my husband….now this is creating problem in our marriage….problem is that i dont like his way of thinking and he also only like to have foreplay and he rarely says for sex….. but he has made me guilty in front of his parents and my parents……i dont like the way he approaches to me…….i cant leave him because my parents will not allow it and my brothers will not support me now i’mfeeling to do suicide but i dont want to be a coward…….please help because of the tension i started having migraine problem and loss of diet ………please advice me…..i want to express fully but here i’not able to…….but by talking i think i can express myself…..please help.urgent.

    Hi, It is very sad that you are not getting sex in your marriage which is a very important aspect and need in a marital relationship. I cant understand why he is making you feel guilty. In fact you need sex to keep yourself healthy physically and mentally,there is nothing wrong in wanting sex. Try to talk to him and express your need for healthy sex and things which you would like him to do in sex.When you will have proper intercourse and achieve orgasm your migraine will disappear,else you can try to masturbate to satisfy yourself.Otherwise seek sex outside your marriage.

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    Nidhi
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    but i started hating him……because almost daily we have arguments…..than there is huge difference inn my way of thinking and his thinking……before marriage he use to show that he has very modern thinking but now i feel that he is very conservative…….i dont feel i know he is conservative because many times he has said that boy’s family is superior to girl ‘s family and also he is greatly influenced by his mother what his mother speaks same words he uses in our arguments…..i dont have any problem with his mother but he should think that this is our life. i tell u one incident actually i’m suffereing from fever from past 20 days so doctors was not able to find the reason thats why they had suggested for some test…..now those test are costly…..so he has problem with that also..although his salary is decent ha can afford those test…..but one day he says to me that ” jab ghar me bhu aati hain tu lakshmi lati hain par jab se tum aayi ho lakshmi ja rahi hain” i was not expecting these word from an educated person like him……. and i know these are the same words that his mother says him..because his mother has said to me this before. there are many incident like this i cant tell u all…….so i had start developing that hatred feeling for him………please help…..my marrige is getting ruin….please help…………and i had talk to him many times before about our relationship but he never listens to me nor he understands me , he just says that what he does that is allright and he will not change ….simply he is a very rigid person…………..please help.

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